Okay, I KNOW this is treacherous ground and that by bringing up this very touchy and very controversial subject, I am going to be stepping on a lot of toes. But this is just to heavy on my heart to ignore right now.
Anybody who knows me well knows that I am pro-live to the core. Some might even think that I'm over-the-top or ultra-conservative on the issue. Call me whatever you want. It doesn't matter to me.
My husband and I have made the decision NOT to go on any form of birth control. It's not that we think it's such a horrible thing. Many of my closest, dearest friends have chosen the pill, the patch or other forms of family planning.
There's just something about birth control that, to me, says "I'm going to play God in this area of my life." Ouch. Sorry if that hurt - that's just the way I feel about it PERSONALLY. Don't take it as a hit. I personally just can't do it in faith, and that which is not of faith is sin. I you can, great.
Don't get me wrong - my husband and I have even had intense conversations about whether waiting to have kids is playing God or just the responsible think for some poeple to do. We've wondered if we're ready to start a family or if "planning" our offspring for a later date would be wise. It is my personal opinion that if you're not ready to start a family, then don't get married because sex is part of marriage and sex was designed for making babies. It's a package deal. But then again, the Bible says that if you're burning with lust you should get married - and I can think of MANY people who are burning with lust who, in my opinion, are not ready to have kids. This is all very debatable, but there's something else that is NOT debatable in my book: The pill can cause abortions.
Now just wait! I didn't say the pill "does" cause abortions or "always" causes abortions...just that it "can" cause abortions. And most of the time, the parents would never even know it. It happens so early, you'd never even know you were pregnant.
I'm begging you - please read this. It's a summary of an 88 page book by a man named Randy Alcorn who did the research and figured it out. Basically, "There are three mechanisms of the birth control pill.
1.) Inhibiting ovulations (primary mechanism)
2.) Thickening the cervical mucus, thereby making it more difficult for sperm to travel to the egg, and
3.) Thinning and shriveling the lining of the uterus to the point that it is unable or less able to facilitate the implantation of the newly fertilized egg.
The first two mechanisms are contraceptive. The third is abortive.
When a woman taking the Pill discovers she is pregnant (according to The Physician's Desk Reference's efficacy rate tables, this is 3 percent of pill-takers each year), it means that all three of these mechanisms have failed. The third mechanism sometimes fails in its role as backup, just as the first and second mechanisms sometimes fail. Each and every time the third mechanism succeeds, however, it causes an abortion."
I don't know about you, but I'm not willing to live with that possibility. Just knowing that by taking the pill, I could potentially be killing my baby - it's not worth it. Who knows - maybe it would never happen...but I'm not willing to take that chance.